If you find a woman you desire to marry, DO YOUR RESEARCH. Ask if she has elder/younger sisters and how their marriages turn out. Ask about her mother and how her marriage turned out. Do your research well. Open your ears, my young guy.
Now listen to me, that her siblings marriages did not work or her mothers marriages did not work does not mean her marriage will not work. She might just be different in the house. She could have stepped out of the line and given her life Christ. Her own marriage could work. It is possible. But still be on your guard. Be watchful. Don't think because it is rosy today, history cannot repeat itself in your home.
Three months ago, a guy came to see me and told me stories on his marriage. The mother of his wife, left their father and ran to America. 18 years she has not returned. The father died not too long ago in misery.
Their first born, left her husband ran to London. Eight years she is still here. Second born the same thing. Third born same. My guy did not know. He was blinded by love. He did not do his checks. In fact, he married the lady because her siblings are abroad. He thought that would brighten his chances of traveling abroad after marrying her. He met the lady in Church. Holy holy. Born again. He did not know that "what is behind six pass seven!"
After wedding, the blind eyes of love began to open. He began to know the truth of their traveling. Their mum, according to him, always encourage her daughters, if any man does any how to you, just leave him and come to America. That became a mantra in the family. Any little wahala in their homes, the daughters left their husbands. America/London straight!
Three months ago, he had an issue with his wife. He works in Abuja, Wife in Lagos. When he returned home, wife, born again, Holy holy, has disappeared to America with two children! History don repeat itself.
Example Two: This story was also shared with me and i have seen many of such. My guy, do your research well before you enter any family to pick a wife.
This guy married a lady whose mother did not divorce her husband but does not live with him either. First born, divorced in Nigeria, went to England and got married. She has divorced twice. Five children for three husbands! The second born, divorced with two children for two husbands. Third born, a guy. the fourth wife now. Six children scattered all over London.
When this my friend was to marry his beau, some people hinted him of the family status quo. But he was in love. Their marriage was one in town. People washed their hands with wine and fruit drinks. Imported wine fa! They had a great wedding. They had a bad marriage. After three years, the marriage don pafuka.
Those days in Yoruba land, before you marry any man or woman, family sent spies to check the other family. They want to know the diseases, sicknesses, immoralities, history of their families. Are they worshipers of God? These days, they check what car is he driving. Which oil company is he working. Is their parents in America? Our fathers did not care for that. They were not foolish o. That was why marriages hardly break those days. Our mothers stay in their homes, come rain, come shine. We need to go back to the basics.
Guy, i warn you: be on your guard. I am not saying family history happen in all cases, but it can happen in your case!
May you have a happy home.
Comr. Christian onwugbolu
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